"The Grey" Christian Youth Film?

I wonder who thought it would be a good idea to show "The Grey" at a Christian youth gathering here in Abbotsford. I do have a vested interest but will just give you what I know to be true.

I have not seen the movie but went to Pluggedin.ca to get a review of it in light of Christian thought.

There is little sexual content but lots and lots of violence. What really got to me was the "More than 150 f-words. Close to 50 s-words. God's name is misused at least a dozen times, with and without "d‑‑n." Jesus' name is abused another 10 times. We also hear "a‑‑," "b‑‑ch," "b‑‑tard," "h‑‑‑" and "f-g."

At what point does this seem like a good choice for a young Christian group to watch?

While I understand the life and death struggle while stranded and surrounded by ravenous wolves I think that we, as Christian Leaders need not be filling our kids ears with vulgar language and cursing (they will hear enough of that outside of the Church)

Here is a link to the review http://www.pluggedin.ca/videos/2012/q2/grey.aspx

Here is some food for thought

Psalm 101:3 I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.

Philippians 4:8 (AMP)

8 For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them].


Grace - Get out of Hell Free Card

Wayne Watley conversation
Over the last few years I have noticed an increasing amount of teaching that focuses on love and grace as the key messages of the Church. While I see this as admirable we have all but stopped teaching about sin, judgement and hell.

In my opinion there must be a balance and we have led people to believe that all you have to do is "say a little prayer and accept Jesus in your heart, your sins are forgiven and you are going to heaven," without telling them what is expected.

For the record I do not believe in once saved always saved  nor do I believe in greasy grace.This is quite a complicated topic but I will try to simplify my reasoning.

"For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins." Hebrews 10:26.

"And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God." Luke 9:62

"And, behold, a certain lawyer stood up, and tempted him, saying, Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life? He said unto him, What is written in the law? how readest thou? And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself. And he said unto him, Thou hast answered right: this do, and thou shalt live." Luke 10:25-28.

"But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence stedfast unto the end;" Hebrews 3:13,14.

We are not talking about a true Believer that has a misstep or misdeed but those that live in open rebellion to what they know God would not approve of.

In Luke 12:42-46 Jesus shows us how a faithful servant can turn into an unfaithful one.

We have to be overcomers and endure until the end. None of us are perfect but as we learn and grow and realize what God expects how can we continue to willfully do what He hates and call ourselves Believers.

Jesus said "If you love me you will keep my commandments." We need to look at what His commandments really were and are we keeping them.

I really dont want to see young people especially see how close to the world they can go without going over that line. I would rather stay closer to my Master and walk as we have been instructed in His Book.

I have been that Christian who walked part in the world and part out and it cost me greatly in my life.

I will leave this with one other thought:
"If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him." 1 John 2:15"
"Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit of our God." (I CORINTHIANS 6:9-11)


My Love/Hate Relationship With Christians and The Church!

be careful with your words
James 3:5 

Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.
The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

Before I start this let me state for the record that I LOVE the "church" (ekklesia - The Body) and in saying that have a deep love for the Brethren who walk and live according to the Word and in whom I see the fruit and the love of the Spirit!

I am somewhat jaded when it comes to the Church and Church life and will attempt to humbly explain it in this post. My experiences with Christians (flawed human beings at best) have not always been positive ones.

In my teens I was accused by a woman in my Church of being a drug dealer although up until that point I had never even tried any drugs in my life. I believe looking back this was to keep me away from her impressionable daughter because the reputation that proceeded me before giving my life to God in those years was far worse than the truth actually was.

I saw a leader in the Church as a gossip, a liar and a hypocrite.

Previous to this I was sexually molested by a man, a leader in another Church that I had attended since a young child. I was groomed and molested. very frequently and every time he had opportunity. Again a leader in the Church doing things that I knew were wrong yet felt powerless to do anything about.

When I did finally get up the courage to come forward to Christians that I trusted I was told "he would never do that." It is the stigma of growing up in a small community where your church leaders are also business leaders and can lie and hide the truth of their sins.

I was told about 4 years ago that he was accused of this once again and how many more victims are there YET I kept quiet because no one would listen!

I left the Church for many years choosing to lead a rebellious, sin filled life BECAUSE of these two incidents in my life.It has made me even more aware of how my choices in what I say and what I do, especially to young people, can positively or negatively impact them.

I will not go into details about my journey, at least not at this juncture, but will say that during what I call my wilderness years I still carried and read my Bible. It is funny that God always had His hand on my life even when I was making bad choices.

I came back to God several years ago. I cannot give an exact time or date but I just started living different, being different, thinking different and being very aware of my fruit and my life as well as the choices I was making.

I am more gentle. I rely on my God and have a faith that is strong and sustains me.

I was afflicted several years ago with a Social Anxiety Disorder and didnt leave my home very often except to work. I do not know what caused it or how it came to be and have previously written about it.

I am happy to say I am getting better.

I have always attended "church." Depending on your definition of Church! I define it as brethren getting together to worship and to discuss. To pray for one another and to lift one another up. This can be either in person, on the phone or online.

I know some will disagree with me but in my times dealing with SAD sometimes online fellowship was all I had. I know others (many others) in the same boat and they are on their journey in life and we need to encourage any fellowship and not be putting people down for the way they decide to fellowship.

I am now able to attend a larger church although I have to admit that I feel quite lost in the large amount of people that go there. Sometimes I feel my SAD kick back in and i have to refocus but I do enjoy the teaching.

So, that is part of my journey. I share openly but don't go into details about things at this point unless I have to with people I know in my life.

Do not be one of those Christians who sits in the pew on Sunday and then gossips about others during the week and be careful what you say about a young person as it could affect their life for years to come. Words are powerful. Use them wisely.

***Just for the record I have forgiven the two people who did this to me in the past and do NOT blame them for all of my poor choices in my life. They may have been catalysts for some but in the end I am ultimately responsible for any poor choices I made.


My Theological Views and Postings

I have some time tonight and wanted to take some time to discuss how some of my theological views are changing and how I am changing my life in view of my thoughts.

I am online a lot as that is the world which I live in. I advertise and make money from working online and teach others different online strategies to make money. I also participate in many conversations pertaining to the faith.

I have been a Believer as long as I can remember and although I have fallen away and chosen my own worldly paths many times I have come back to serve my God with a stronger faith than ever. I can only say what the Bible says. Nothing more, nothing less.

Having said that I can read a passage of Scripture and several others can read the same Scriptures and have a very different understanding. This is what I am seeing online when people start to discuss several hot button topics such as healings, tongues, gifts of the Spirit, the Bible, Hebrew Roots etc, etc, etc.

I see people spending copious amounts of time arguing with each other over vain philosophies. I just have come to the point where I dont engage. I see and hear what people say but my job is to listen to what God says to me.

I need to look at my own life. Is there sin in my life that God wants me to change? Are there areas of my life that need to change in order for people to see God in me? If there are I need to make a plan to change those areas in me!

Are there ways that I can show love? Are there ways for me to be of service to others? These to me are more important than whether I can argue with someone over some specific doctrine. How am I making a difference?

My postings are going to change as I walk out some of the things I personally need to change. I will be looking for areas to serve and be more giving and helpful to others.

I am looking at an opportunity to be more minimalist in order to have more to share. I am looking for ways to make a living online in order to share that with others who need to make just a little extra. My life will be about serving.

Let's face it. I cannot do much about what our Government is doing or how our economy goes but I can change my little world and be a different person to all of the people in it.

So my posts will be about positive things, about my journey, about things God says to me. You may like it you may not. This blog was started years ago to be a personal blog and somehow I got about doing things in a different direction. I need to be more personal and more transparent so that is where I will start.

I hope you like it. I hope you join me on the journey but if not be blessed and be at peace.


If You Are Going To Be a Christian Then Be a Christian!

Be a Christian
If you are going to be a Christian then be a Christian!

No more straddling the fence, no more walking the broad road but stand up and be counted. Count The Cost because it is a very pricy one.

Study the Word to know WHAT you are supposed to do, HOW you are supposed to be and do an inner check up from the neck up to make sure that YOU are right!

Be a fruit inspector BUT check YOUR fruit first. How is your attitude towards others? Are you gossiping disguised as concern, are you one way in front of your friends and another way in front of your Church peeps and those that you don't want to see your true self?

I have lived this and it is a road to destruction! Walk a narrow road. Study the Word. Pray, Pray, Pray!

I Get Angry - Transparency

I Get Angry
Normally I am a loving, peaceful, fun loving guy who enjoys a good joke and laughter. I love to spin a yarn and have many good stories to share. My life has been filled with so much pain and heartache that at one point I decided that I was not going to live in that pain

But I can still get angry!!!  Don't get me wrong it is not the violent, in your face, confrontational angry and one where I will sin. (yes Christians are allowed to get angry Ephesians 4:26-27)

I get angry by injustices. People walking all over people for their own selfish gain, how selfish the world has become, children who are rude and disrespectful of their parents and elders, how the poor are treated, people who are doubly minded and say and act one way around one group of people but are totally different in their home lives.

I get angry at entitlement mentality. People who have everything they need, yet hold onto it with two fists tightly wrapped together and want more while those around them are having a hard time. They could reach out to help and have the ability to do so but don't.

Some may say I am judging others. My Bible tells me I have every right to judge the fruits and actions of Believers to see if they line up with what the Word says. That way I won't get fooled by the enemy and wolves in sheep's clothing.

As I try to live a life of peace I encounter people who try to disturb that peace by their actions. How am I to deal with them? I can love them , which I do. I can pray with them, which I do. I will not, however engage with them or interact with them as they build my anger to a point where I want to burst. I desire to tell them what I think and how I feel but somehow that little voice says "be at peace" or "be still."

You know that little voice that is saying "how would I react?" I see Yeshua getting angry. I see Him getting impatient. I also see Him being very loving.

How do we get to the point where we dont react but we do and say exactly what the Father wants us to do in times when we are feeling frustrated or even angry?

I said I would be more transparent in 2014. It begins today!


The Grammys, Award Shows and Christians

Katy Perry 2014 Grammy awards
I have hesitated to say anything in light of all of the coverage that the Grammy debacle has received over the last few days but after seeing how 2 Christian "stars" reacted I have to make some comments.

Should Christian "Celebrities" Be at Award Shows?

I guess that is up to their personal discretion.

However at this particular award show they Celebrated Gay Marriage by performing the ceremony of over 30 gay couples flaunting their lifestyle over the airwaves and I as a Christian, do  think that IF I had not been disgusted by the humanistic, symbolic, demonic, Illuminati display by Katy Perry I would have walked out at the sight of this.

It is so evident which way the world is going and why would we support any of this by being in attendance?  I have seen comments by a few Christian artists and I dont want to single any out (I will single one out)

We are not to judge those outside the church (1 Corinthians 5:12) however are we supposed to be supportive of their lifestyle?

I dont think we are. We can support them as people who God loves but to Celebrate their lifestyle with them does not make sense IF it goes against everything we believe in (sanctity of marriage and God's desire for His creation)

All I can think of is what fellowship does light have with darkness. I wish I knew just how narrow the road was. Do we see how close to danger we can get before we get enveloped into it?

I believe that this is a very slippery slope.

I love Christian Music and some of the artists BUT many of the Artists are afraid to speak out. You can tell by their postings on Twitter and Facebook. I can imagine it must be a horrific inner struggle. Speak the truth at the risk of losing popularity or just say the status quo "I dont judge anyone," which is not what my Bible says at all.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

I have no idea how any Christian while sitting at one of these awards shows could be thinking anything of the sort?

Mandisa stayed home and although she won 2 awards this is her response on her Facebook Page. I admire her for her courage to speak her mind and talk about her own struggles.


With all that is going on in the world is it yet time for Christians to get off the fence and stop accepting all of the filth the world throws at us and make a stand?


A Biblical View of Homosexuality

Pastor Matthew Price - North Langley Community Church
My wife listened to this audio last night of the Pastor of our home Church giving a Biblical View of Homosexuality and what our Church as well as our Elders and Denomination thought about the subject. I give kudos to our Pastor, Matthew Price, for being willing to tackle the hard subjects that the Church is facing today in a Biblical way.

A Biblical View of Homosexuality. In my opinion this is one of the most Balanced and Biblical views I have heard so grab a cup of coffee, sit back, relax and enjoy.

A Biblical View of Homosexuality

And while you are there you can listen to the Testimony of Christopher Yuan. An amazing Testimony of the redemptive power of God.


Social Anxiety Disorder - What Should Be The Christian Response?

As I had posted in a previous post I have had bouts with Social Anxiety Disorder over the last several years. What that looks like is:

1) Thinking you are doing something wrong and people are constantly judging you or laughing at you.
2) Inability to go to Social Functions and making excuses as to why you won't go
3) Depression mild or severe
4) Hermit like behavior. Staying in your apartment or room for weeks/months at a time with limited Social Contact outside of work
5) Being afraid in Social situations and having panic attacks

Social Anxiety DisorderNow these are just a few of the symptoms that I have had over the years and it has played with my emotions and my life.

My faith was a biggest part of my life (and still is) and I was not able to attend services as It would heighten my anxiety to be in groups of people that large (or small) Especially people I didn't know. I would feel very claustrophobic and closed in.

I had shared this with many people I trusted because it also is very embarrassing. Who wants to admit they are a temperamental hermit?

Of all of the Christians I have shared this with they all had advice for me ranging from get therapy, to go on medication for this disorder.

NOT ONE said "let me pray for you, let me lay hands on you and share your burden."

You see I am a person of faith and I believe God is BIGGER than this disorder. My God can help me get through this without medications that mask the disorder. (read: i don't do narcotics if possible) I don't like the side effects.

It also didn't make sense to me to see a "therapist" who first of all was not a Believer and second of all has ONLY clinical knowledge. I have worked with these people in the past and understand their foundation.

Thankfully I have met a woman who understands my struggle. I married her! We do attend a rather large Church together and she helps me to focus on the things I need to focus on.

I am able for the most part to get through Social Settings although still have issues with multiple sound sources but she gives me a smile that lets me know she is there and that all is ok. It calms me almost immediately.

I am able to work and focus and am more focused than ever when online working and love what I do.

She is able to get me out and our walks and hikes give me the exercise and fresh air needed to remain calm and focused.

So if someone you know is struggling with any form of Social Anxiety Disorder, pull up a chair beside them. Walk with them, pray with them, share in their struggle and burdens and be their support.

I have found that I am not the ONLY one who has struggled with these issues. Just since moving back to Abbotsford I know of 3 people who I know would benefit from good friendships with people who will take up their burden with them



His Will Be Done - Is That What You Really Want?

Doing God's Will
My wife and I had a very interesting conversation this morning after her devotion.

She said to me "Have you ever noticed how when we pray it is always about the things we want to happen or things we want?" (paraphrase - come on it was 6:30 and my eyes weren't open yet)

I replied something like "I have been thinking the same thing lately when we should be praying for God's will to be done in every situation as sometimes the trials we go through are for our testing."

I know we can come up with Scripture to support praying for our wants BUT ......

WHAT IF.......we prayed:

"God I really want help in this situation and this is how I see things but in all things God I want your will to be done and show me what I need to learn and do to be in accordance to your will."

WHAT IF - we truly wanted in our hearts for God's will to be done in every situation and not our will to be done?

We may truly NOT like what His will is because it wouldn't line up with OUR will? What would we do then?

We would moan and cry "God didn't answer my prayer!" Yes He did! He just didn't answer it the way YOU thought He should.

Jesus while praying in Gethsemane said in Matthew 26: 39

"He went a little farther and fell on His face, and prayed, saying, “O My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as You will.”

He was ALL about doing the will of the Father. Shouldn't we be willing to have His will above ours no matter the consequence?

Food for thought!

Check OUT this link for an awesome book on Knowing God's Will!



Wolves In The Church - Women Beware!

Acts 20:28-33

Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood.  29 I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; 30 and from among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them. 31 Therefore be alert, remembering that for three years I did not cease night or day to admonish everyone with tears. 32 And now I commend you to God and to the Word of His grace, which is able to build you up and to give you the inheritance among all those who are sanctified.

Finding a spouse! As you get into your 30's and 40's and are single this becomes a challenge and sometimes we can fall for the traps that are out there and available to us.

As I listened to Candace (not her real name) tell the story about how she had met a guy in church and how he was not who he portrayed and that he had used her I thought back to other stories I have heard that were similar. In fact I had been in that same position with a woman "in the Church."

My wife actually has given me an example of what woman should look for and do when they meet a man who claims to be Christian and is in the Church.

1) Watch him closely. Watch how he intermingles with other people and is his walk one that you can identify with.

2) Is he openly willing to discuss spiritual things with others or does he shy away from those conversations? If he is a true Believer his faith should be evident in all areas of his life.

3) Send a letter to his closest friends on Facebook asking for more info on him (my now wife did this without me knowing) Take what they say under advisement.

4) Is he part of a group in the Church? Does he minister to others, does he speak words of encouragement, is he loving to others. All important.

5) Do not give him money. I dont care what the reason is. Unless you are married he needs to make his own way. Two of you together can be a financial powerhouse BUT until you are married do not in any way support him financially UNLESS it is something that benefits you both.

6) If you are convicted not to have sex before marriage (and I think you should be) Do not give in to any pressure he may place on you. Be obedient to God and IF he is not willing to be obedient to God in that area I would have concerns about other areas.

7) Is he willing to open up his life to you? Computer especially. Is he hiding things on his computer or do you have the passwords and he is willing to let you peruse? With statistics telling us that porn addiction is high in the church this is something to consider.

There are men and women who will get into your hearts by playing off of your faith in God, yes, even in the Church. Prepare yourself, dont give into loneliness and yes God does have that one that He has prepared just for you.

I am proof!

Please protect yourself.


Say What You Mean - Tame The Tongue

How often do we say something on the spur of the moment and not follow through? "Let's meet for coffee next week - and then not getting in touch for several weeks after as an example.

For 2014 I am determining to live my life with purpose. Speak with purpose and think about things before I say anything. I believe there is Scriptural mandate for this but some of us tend to speak our mind without engaging our brain first.

Matthew 5:37  Let your Yes be simply Yes, and your No be simply No; anything more than that comes from the evil one. Be strong in your convictions. Say what you mean and mean what you say. This is my motto for 2014.

Think about things before you say them and IF you say anything be convicted through your words.

Be careful what we say:

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” – Proverbs 12:18, ESV

Be careful how we respond to what others say:

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1, ESV

Be careful the kinds of things we say:

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” – Ephesians 4:29, ESV

Don’t Speak Hurtful Words, even when you feel like you are justified:

“Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.” – Romans 12:14, ESV

This is just a start of ALL of the verses in the Scriptures that talk about how we should be careful what we say and how we say it.

Let us speak with purpose through 2014. Come and like my page on Facebook and follow me as I share the Commands of the Word that we should be living each day